My lil brother’s name is William and he is twenty-five years younger than I. He lives in San Francisco, sharing a one-bedroom apartment with
two others and has supported himself since his late teens. He aspires to and is well on his way towards reaching the high tier level of fashion photography.
Together we share the same father only, so technically our sibling tie falls under the title of “half”. Half brother or half sister, or ‘agnate’ as Wiki states. Whatever the label, or the politically correct response to those who inquire, my ‘half brother’ is simply, my lil brother.
I cannot and will not distinguish a half from a whole just as I cannot and will not distinguish between a half-filled glass or its’ opposite. We have an emotional bond, some of the same DNA and a host of other psychological thingies not worth mentioning.
On a recent visit to NYC to explore, meet his network and shoot three days of fashion/beauty photography with models and a crew, I realized this twenty-two year old had allot to teach his much older sis. His positivity towards life and his refusal not to drown in the ‘if only’ is infectious.
My lil brother’s visit taught me:
*Self isolation and self medication is not a good thing
*Routines can be stagnant with no opportunity for growth
*Having one’s own place is a blessing and a luxury
*Remain in motion-sometimes going backwards generates the
inertia needed to move forward
*Laugh, smile and explore
*Making do with what you have at the present may be the only
*Food in moderation is good-mass consumption is
*In order to partake in the hobbies you love you have to work to make the money to do so
*Fresh bagels, smoked salmon, cream cheese and an assortment of gourmet olives are an exquisite treat when shared with loved ones
*Walk fast to your destination; walk fast from your destination
*Our father had a strong work ethic that we inherited
*One Bloody Mary during Sunday brunch is quite satisfying
*Family high drama is laughable but remember to brush the remnants off one’s shoulder after its half hour shelf life has expired
*It is okay to hug and say I love you